Uburezi bw'Ibibazo n'Iterambere ry'Ibibazo (AQ): "Ibuye ry'Umutsima" mu Mikurire y'Umwana

Muri iki gihe sosiyete ihinduka vuba, kugira ubwenge bwo mu mutwe cyangwa ubushobozi bwo gupima ubushobozi bwo gutekereza neza ntabwo bihagije kugira ngo abana bashobore guhangana n’ibibazo by’ejo hazaza bafite icyizere. Ingano y'ibibazo (AQ), yateguwe na Dr. Paul Stoltz, ipima ubushobozi bw'umuntu bwo guhangana n'ibibazo, ingorane, gutsindwa, n'imihangayiko, no gukira ingorane, iragenda irushaho kuba ingenzi. Guha abana uburezi bukwiye bw'ibibazo no guteza imbere ubumenyi bwabo bwa AQ ni imwe mu mpano z'agaciro ababyeyi bashobora gutanga kugira ngo umwana wabo akure neza.

Uburezi bw'ibibazo n'inyigo y'ibibazo ni iki?

• Uburezi ku bibazo: Ibi ntibivuze guteza ingorane nkana. Ahubwo, bivuga ababyeyi bagamije guhanga amahirwe mu gihe iterambere ry'umwana kugira ngo bagere ku gutsindwa guciriritse, ingorane, cyangwa gucika intege, hanyuma bakabayobora gusobanukirwa neza no guhangana n'izo ngorane. Ishingiro ryabyo riri mu "ubuyobozi" aho kuba "uburenganzira bwo kwemerera ibintu."

• Ingano y'ibibazo (AQ)Nk’uko byagaragajwe na Dr. Paul Stoltz, AQ ipima ubushobozi bw’umuntu bwo kwihanganira ibibazo mu mutwe. Abantu bafite AQ nyinshi ntibakunze gucika intege iyo bahuye n’ingorane, ahubwo bagerageza ibisubizo, kandi ukigira ku byananiranye, amaherezo ugakomeza gukomera. AQ ikubiyemo uko umuntu abona Kugenzura, Ubunyamabanga (uburyo bavuga ko ari inshingano), Kugera (uburyo ingorane zigira ingaruka ku buzima bwabo), na Ukwihangana (igihe ingorane zizamara).

Kuki Uburezi bw'Ibibazo n'Iterambere ry'Ikibazo ari ingenzi cyane?

1. Ongera ubushobozi bwo kwihanganira stress: Umuryango wa none urimo guhatana cyane, kandi abana bazahura n'ibibazo bitandukanye mu gihe kizaza. Guhura n'ibibazo biri hagati y'abana bato bibafasha buhoro buhoro kubaka ubushobozi bwo guhangana n'ibibazo byo mu mutwe, kwiga gucunga imihangayiko, aho kubarengerwa na yo.

2. Teza imbere ubuhanga bwo gukemura ibibazo: Mu bihe byiza, abana bashobora kubura imbaraga zo gutekereza ku giti cyabo no gukemura ibibazo. Ingorane zibatera gutekereza mu buryo buhanga no gushaka uburyo butandukanye bwo gukemura ibibazo.

3. Ongera icyizere no kwigirira akamaro: Iyo abana batsinze ingorane binyuze mu mbaraga zabo bwite, bumva bafite icyo bagezeho. Ibi ni ingenzi cyane kuruta intsinzi itangwa n'ababyeyi kandi bikongera icyizere cyabo no kwigirira akamaro.

4. Iga gucunga amarangamutima: Iyo abana bahuye n'ibibazo, bagira amarangamutima mabi nko gucika intege, kurakara no kurakara. Ubuyobozi bw'ababyeyi bushobora kubafasha kumenya ayo marangamutima no kwiga uburyo bwiza bwo kugaragaza amarangamutima no kuyagenga.

5. Guteza imbere inshingano no kuba inyangamugayo: Gufasha abana gusobanukirwa ko gutsindwa ari kimwe mu bigize iterambere, no gufata inshingano ku mahitamo yabo n'ibikorwa byabo, aho guhora bashinja abandi cyangwa ibintu bibera hanze.

Ni gute wakora uburezi bunoze ku bana ku birebana n'ibibazo no guteza imbere ubumenyi bw'ibanze?

• Reka Abana Bagire Inzitizi Ziciriritse: Irinde kurinda abana cyane no kubakorera byose. Urugero, reka bahambire imigozi y'inkweto zabo nubwo byatwara igihe kirekire, reka basukure ibikinisho byabo nubwo batabikora neza, kandi ubareke batsindwe mu mikino.

• Ba "Ikintu cy'amarangamutima" n'"Indorerwamo": Iyo umwana ababaye bitewe n'ikibazo, banza utege amatwi kandi wemere amarangamutima ye: "Ndabizi ko ubabaye/urakaye ubu." Ntukihutire guhakana cyangwa gutanga ikiganiro. Hanyuma, mufashe kumenya no kuvuga amarangamutima ye.

• Ubuyobozi aho gukemura mu buryo butaziguye: Iyo umwana ahuye n'ikibazo, banza umubaze uti: "Ni ubuhe bufasha ukeneye?" cyangwa "Utekereza ko wagikemura ute?" aho guhita umuha igisubizo. Ushobora kumuha inama, ariko ureke umwana agire amahirwe yo gutekereza.

• Shimangira imbaraga n'inzira: Shishikariza umwana ubutwari bwo guhangana n'ibibazo n'imbaraga ashyiramo, aho kwibanda ku musaruro gusa. Urugero: "Nubwo utabishoboye, wagerageje uburyo butandukanye, ni byiza cyane!" Ibi bitera abana imitekerereze yo gukura.

• Fasha Abana Guhindura Uburyo Bagaragaza Imiterere Yabo: Sobanura abana mu buryo buboneye impamvu zo gutsindwa. Irinde ko bashyira amakosa yose mu bikorwa bitewe n'ubushobozi buke bwabo, kandi wirinde gushyira inshingano zose ku bintu byo hanze. Bigishe gutandukanya ibintu bishobora gutegekwa n'ibidashobora gutegekwa.

• Sangiza ibyakubayeho mu bihe bigoye: Ba intangarugero mu gusangiza abandi ibibazo wahuye na byo n'uburyo wabitsinze. Ibi bishobora gutuma abana bumva bafitanye isano kandi bakiga ingamba zo guhangana na byo.

• Kora imikino n'ibikorwa bigoye: Hitamo imikino cyangwa imirimo isaba umwana imbaraga kugira ngo ayirangize, urugero nk'amashusho agoye, ingendo zo hanze, cyangwa ubuhanga mu mikino busaba kugerageza inshuro nyinshi kugira ngo atsinde.

• Itoze kugira umwuka wo kwigirira icyizere: Shishikariza abana kubona uruhande rwiza rw'ibintu, ndetse no mu bihe bigoye, no gushaka ibyiringiro n'amahirwe.

Ingorane ni ikintu gisanzwe mu buzima, kandi AQ ni ubushobozi bw'ingenzi mu guhangana n'inkubi z'umuyaga. Binyuze mu burezi bw'ibibazo bikomeye, ababyeyi bashobora gufasha abana guhindura "ingororano" z'ubuzima mo ibikoresho byo gukarisha ubushobozi bwabo bwo kwihangana, bakabaha ubutwari n'ubwenge bwo guhangana n'ejo hazaza no guhangana n'imiraba.