Ukuqonda Ukwakheka Kobuwena: Uhambo Lokuzifumana
Ukwakheka kobuntu yinkqubo ethatha ubomi bonke, etshintshatshintshayo, kodwa iindlela ezithile zophuhliso zibonakala njengezishwankathelo ezibalulekileyo zolu hambo. Asikuko ukuqondwa ngequbuliso, kodwa kukuguquka okuqhubekayo, okubonakala kakhulu ngexesha lokufikisa kunye nokukhula kwasekuqaleni.
Iindlela eziphambili zophuhliso ekubunjweni kobuwena:
1. Ukusuka kwiNkcazelo yangaphandle ukuya kuPhando lwangaphakathi
Kwasebuntwaneni, indlela umntwana aziqonda ngayo ichaphazeleka kakhulu zizinto zangaphandle. Bafaka impendulo evela kubazali, ootitshala, kunye noontanga babo ngaphakathi, bedla ngokwamkela ubuwena ababunikwe bona. Umzekelo, umntwana unokuzibona "njengoyena ukrelekrele" kuba ootitshala bakhe bancoma izakhono zakhe zemfundo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko bekhula, ingakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa, kukho utshintsho olukhulu oluya ekuhloleni ngaphakathi. Ulutsha luqala ukubuza iinkolelo, iindima, kunye neempawu ezizuzwe njengelifa, lufuna ngenkuthalo ukuqonda ukuba bangoobani, oko bakukholelwayo, kunye noko bafuna kona, ngaphandle kokulindela kwangaphandle. Oku kubandakanya ukuzihlolisisa, ukuzama iindima ezahlukeneyo, kunye nokuchasana nemeko ekhoyo ngoku.
2. Ukwanda kokuzazi nokucingisisa
Uphawu oluphambili lophuhliso lobuwena kukukhula kwamandla okuzazi nokuzihlolisisa. Abantwana abancinci bathambekele ekugxileni kwizinto ezibonakalayo ngabo (umz., "Ndineenwele ezimdaka," "Ndiyakuthanda dlala"). Njengoko besiya ebusheni, izakhono zabo zokuqonda ziyakhula, zivumela ingcinga engacacanga. Baqala ukucinga ngeengcinga zabo, iimvakalelo, amaxabiso, kunye nezizathu zabo ngendlela ecacileyo neyinkimbinkimbi. Oku kucamngca okuphezulu kubalulekile ekudibaniseni iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobuqu kwisazisi esidibeneyo nesizinzileyo. Baqala ukubuza "Kutheni ndivakalelwa ngolu hlobo?" okanye "Yintoni ebalulekileyo kum?"
3. Ukuphonononga iiNdima ezahlukeneyo kunye nezibophelelo
Ukwakheka kobuwena kudla ngokubonakala ngexesha lophando, ngamanye amaxesha elibizwa ngokuba yi-"moratorium" kwiimeko zobuntu bukaJames Marcia. Ngeli xesha, abantu bazama ngenkuthalo iindima ezahlukeneyo, iinkolelo, kunye nokuziphatha ngaphandle kokwenza isibophelelo esiqinileyo. Oku kunokubandakanya ukuzama amaqela ahlukeneyo abahlobo, ukuphonononga izinto ezahlukeneyo zemfundo, ukuzama imfashini, okanye ukubuza iinkolelo zezopolitiko nezenkolo. Olu phononongo lubavumela ukuba bavavanye iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobuntu babo kwaye babone ukuba zihambelana njani. Emva kolu phononongo, abantu ngokusesikweni baqhubekela ekwenzeni izibophelelo kwiimilinganiselo ezithile, imisebenzi, ubudlelwane, kunye neengcinga ezivakala ziyinyani kubo.
4. Ukuhlanganiswa koBuqu bangaphambili, bangoku, nabazayo
Ubuwena obuvuthiweyo bubandakanya ukuhlanganiswa ngempumelelo komntu owayenguye (amava obuntwana, izinto azifundileyo), ukuba ngubani (iinkolelo zangoku, iimpawu zobuntu), kunye nokuba ngubani ofuna ukuba nguye (iinjongo, iinjongo, iindima zexesha elizayo). Olu kuhlanganiswa kudala ingqiqo yokuhambelana kunye nokuqhubeka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kumalunga nokuqaphela indlela amava adlulileyo ayibumbile ngayo into ekhoyo ngoku, kunye nendlela ukhetho lwangoku olwakha ngayo umntu onqwenelayo kwixesha elizayo. Le ndlela yophuhliso inceda abantu ukuba baseke ingqiqo ezinzileyo nehlala ihleli yokuba bangoobani, nangona beqhubeka bekhula kwaye betshintsha.
5. Impembelelo yoMxholo weNtlalo kunye noBudlelwane
Nangona ukwakheka kobuwena luhambo lomntu ngamnye, kubunjwa kakhulu ziimeko zentlalo kunye nobudlelwane umntu ahlala kubo. Amaqela oontanga, iintshukumo zosapho, imvelaphi yenkcubeko, kunye nolindelo loluntu zonke zidlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ulutsha, ngakumbi, luhlala luhamba phakathi kokuhambelana nemigaqo yeqela kunye nokuqinisekisa ubuntu babo. Ingxelo kunye nokwamkelwa (okanye ukwaliwa) abakufumanayo kwabanye abantu ababalulekileyo kunegalelo ekuziqondeni kwabo kunye nokukhetha ubuwena. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni bubonelela ngesiseko esikhuselekileyo sokuhlola, ngelixa ubudlelwane obunzima ngamanye amaxesha bunokunyanzela ukuvavanywa kwakhona kobuwena.
Isishwankathelo:
Isishwankathelo esibalaseleyo seendlela zophuhliso ekwakhiweni kobuwena sigxininisa inkqubela phambili ukusuka kwiinkcazo zangaphandle ukuya ekuphononongweni kwangaphakathi, okuphawulwa kukwanda kokuzazi, ukuzama okusebenzayo ngeendima ezahlukeneyo, kunye nokuhlanganiswa kweempawu ezahlukeneyo zobuntu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Le nkqubo inzima idibene kakhulu nokunxibelelana kwezentlalo kunye nomxholo obanzi wenkcubeko. Kukutyhileka okuqhubekayo kobuntu, endaweni yokuba yindawo esisigxina.